Come on… how many times have you invited someone to your home, a party, an event, a date… and then had them not show up? I don’t mean that they called you or texted you or emailed you either the day before or day of the event and gave you a VERY legitimate excuse. I mean, they actually said they were coming and then just didn’t bother to show up? Yep, me too. Too many times to count. I don’t get it… there is something so incredibly rude about this that I seriously feel like slapping someone in the face.
So here’s the deal: I do understand that there are real excuses why you can’t make it. Let me share a few with you.
- You have car trouble (flat tire, run out of gas, get into an accident).
- You are sick (fever, cramps, appendicitis, heart attack, stroke).
- Your child/husband/parent is sick (see above).
- You were called back for an amazing job interview at the last minute.
- Your house flooded.
- Your house is on fire.
- There was an earthquake/hurricane/sharknado that closed the roads.
- You are a doctor and were called in to deliver a baby.
- You are in labor (although, if you are only just having Braxton-Hicks… get your ass to the event).
I also want to share excuses that are NOT okay.
- You overslept (set the damn alarm clock).
- You are tired (not my problem).
- You are drunk (you are a fool).
- You had a better offer/invitation.
- Traffic (it’s okay… show up late if you have to).
- You can’t find your shoes.
- You forgot to do laundry.
- You are feeling fat.
- You are having a bad hair day.
- You forgot what day it was.
- You forgot what time it was.
Let me reiterate plain and simple: If you RSVP to an event… SHOW UP! Don’t just assume that because you aren’t paying for it, somebody else isn’t either. Don’t assume that they won’t miss you. Don’t assume that a friend/associate/PR Rep won’t wonder why you couldn’t be bothered to make it… or at least CALL to give a legitimate excuse.
Seriously? You just don’t show up? That really sucks. And it doesn’t go over well with me. And if you do it more than once, I’ll remember. And chances are… you won’t be invited again.
Just saying.
{ 6 comments… read them below or add one }
I find it crazy at a time when people are so accessible that people still just don’t show up! Sometimes I just want to shake some people and say WTF? Thanks for verbally doing that for me!
Melissa Burton recently posted..Tunes For Tuesday (70′s Edition) – Boz Scaggs
I totally get that sometimes you just can’t get there for some reason… but it seems to be the same people who are no-shows all the time. That is what really infuriates me. And they NEVER notify you that they aren’t coming.
Agree. I’ve found that I see this more and more when i moved to California… HUGE HUGE reason why if I commit to something I am there…
but I’ve had a few blunders too… huge reason why calendars are so important!!!
Jamie recently posted..Recap of The Rebel Coast Launch Party
APPLAUSE. Just…. APPLAUSE.
AJ recently posted..And Today in A Studio City Parking Lot…
I agree. It so rude. I also have experienced people telling me that they are NOT coming, then just show up. Even worse - showing up and bringing a +1 (after saying they can’t make it). A phone call/text/email to give me a heads-up would’ve been nice. Thank you for your post!
Cynthia recently posted..On The Road In San Francisco With Disney Social Media Moms
I “get” that people get sick, their houses catch on fire, etc. It’s the “I forgot” or “something came up” inexcusable excuses that drive me nuts.
Looks, most events involve food. As a hostess, if you plan for 50 and 15 show up, you’ve going to be eating cheese and crackers for days. If you plan for 15 and 50 show up, your guests will be ready to devour each other. And not in a good way.
Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you, when it comes to showing up for an event.
Beverly Diehl recently posted..Dear Author… Are You Smoking Crack? On #GoodReads & #bookreviews