Role Models - Do Your Kids Have Them?

I would hope that if you ask my girls who their role models are they would proclaim, “Why, my parents of course.” Parents should absolutely be a child’s first role models. But after that? Do your kids actually have other role models? People they admire and look up to who are actual real people and don’t just play them on TV?

Yesterday we spent the afternoon and evening with family friends we’ve known for almost 8 years. Our kids have grown up together and while their kids are teenagers now, my young girls love spending time with them. In fact, they definitely see them as role models. My 11 year old, who is walking that fine line between still being a child and transitioning to pre-teen status, is hungry to learn everything she can about being a teen. Sadly to say, it’s been way too long since I’ve been there and while I can advise and comfort to some level, I can’t “show her the ropes” like a real live teen can.

The fact is that most teens won’t give the time of day to a younger child. They are way too busy with their own teenage angst to care much what others think of them. When you do find a teen who takes the time, is genuinely interested, and looks forward to spending time with your kids… well, that is the sign of a child who was raised right. And, it’s a teen that can, and should, be considered a great role model.

My daughter was literally joined at the hip with her 15 year old friend for hours yesterday. She got her hair styled, had a makeup lesson and got advice on skin care and clothes. She ate it up. They even made plans to go shopping and have lunch. Normally, I wouldn’t be too excited to have my 11 year old daughter hanging around with a 15 year old girl… but I’ve known that 15 year old girl since she was 7 and am proud at the woman she is becoming. I’m excited my daughter has someone she can talk to, ask advice of, and show her how to do all the little things she needs to know. And I love how this 15 year old (who is like another daughter to me) is helping my oldest daughter with her transition to teen as well. Never underestimate the value of a good role model. Kids need them.