Marriage.
What do I write about marriage? I’m clueless. I’m married. We just celebrated 13 years together. But what do I write about it?
I guess I would say I have a good marriage. We have three children. We still love each other. We argue, but to be honest the arguing gets less and less each year. After 13 years we’re comfortable with each other. Like an old shoe. But not in a bad way. In a good way.
I never wanted to get married. Ever. My parents were divorced when I was a kid. My Aunts and Uncles all got divorced. Other than my grandparents, I wasn’t surrounded by many intact marriages. I didn’t want to be there. I wasn’t the girl who grew up planning her wedding, so when I was proposed to (at age 31) I was kind of unprepared for it all. We had only known each other one year when we got engaged. We got married 5 months later.
Marriage is hard. I lived alone for a long time so having to get used to someone else being around all the time was hard. Having to consider someone else’s feelings was hard. Having to wonder what someone else wanted for dinner was hard. Every purchase I made was commented on. Asking for another opinion was hard. It’s still hard sometimes, but like everything else… you get used to it.
And 13 years later, this is what I’ve learned about marriage. There is someone else to share the burden. Someone else to share the joy. Someone else to share the pain. Someone else to share the chores. There is someone who will fill up your gas tank for you. Someone who will run to the store for you. Someone who will take the kids out to dinner when you just can’t deal with them one more minute. Someone who will make you a cup of tea when you’re sick. Someone who will take you to breakfast or lunch or dinner so you don’t have to cook. Someone who will look you in the eye and tell you you aren’t fat. Someone who will buy you the sweater you loved. Someone who won’t mind when you tell them you changed your mind and want to take the sweater back. Someone who will kiss you in the morning. Someone who will kiss you at night. Someone who will text you that he misses you. Because he does.
Marriage is hard. Single is harder.
So true, what a great blog. I feel the same and I will be married 20 years in January.
Thank you for writing your blog.
Wow! This post kind of says it all about marriage. The very last quote is so true! We seem to have had similar upbringings, so I can completely relate to the being unprepared for the whole wedding thing…early on in my life I never wanted to get married nor even thought about it ever happening. 🙂
Very sweet post!
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back in October I wrote a post about marriage…the ups the downs. the together. the humor. I invite you to check it out. http://mommetime.com/2010/10/19/love-and-marriage-go-together–like-a-horse-and-carriage.aspx
Single IS harder, especially when you've found the one you want to be a couple with.
Being married to the same woman for over 13 years has been quite a journey. Ups, downs and sideways… yes. We're still together and probably love and respect each other more now then we did when we were first married. Children and family life have alot to do with it for sure, but as I've always said to Carolyn, "WE (you and me) are the foundation, and WE started it all". The rest are building blocks! Thanks for being there, honey. Here's to 13 more. With love…
Want a true snapshot at marriage? My Hubby wrote a comment that I wasn't happy with… I published it anyway. He knew it bothered me so he wrote me a different one. Now that is what I call LOVE.
Wow, that is a part of marriage I don't often consider! Great post!
soo true,there are ups and more downs but still ther is someone for you to rely on is the best of marriage
I was so young when I got married — and after 30 years of marriage — I cannot even begin to imagine being single…..all I know is the thought scares the buggers out of me!