There is a woman I know. Not very well, but well enough. I see her on my Facebook feed and my twitter stream talking about this and that, mostly positive things. I’ve met her in person. She’s super sweet. But she bugs the hell out of me.
In between the mostly positive comments, she imparts her two cents about a lot of things. A lot of things that have me rethinking following her. But the truth is, it isn’t just her. Lately, many women (and men) I know have been dissing ME in their comments and posts. They don’t know my politics, how I choose to raise my kids or what my morals and ethics really are. But what they say hurts… and it’s mean. They are bullies.
We all jump up and cheer when we hear anti-bullying language. It’s not right to talk about race and sex and religion and weight. Apparently, however, it’s still okay to talk about political affiliations and parenting practices and what restaurants we choose to go to. It has occurred to me that the very people who tout marriage equality (which I’m for, by the way) are the same people who will, in the next sentence, talk about how you are a bad parent if you give your kid a Happy Meal. Say what?
If you feel that everyone should be treated equally and that it’s bad to shame overweight people, then what gives you the right to criticize how I parent, what I cook (or don’t cook) for dinner and how I vote?
The beauty of our country is that we are FREE to live our lives the way we want. As long as we don’t hurt anyone. But that’s exactly what people are doing… hurting their friends, their family, their neighbors. Why can’t we just believe what we’d like to believe? Why do we have to conform to YOUR ideas? Why are MY ideas wrong, just because YOU don’t like them?
I have never come out and said that anyone is “doing it wrong.” It might not be how I do things, but I’m pretty sure most of you would think I’m the one doing it wrong. Too bad. That’s my choice. You have yours.
Maybe we can all think a little bit more when we go on social media and say something is BAD, or people who believe differently than you do are crazy or stupid or just plain wrong. They think they are as right as you think you are. I’m tired of it. Want to express your feelings about how YOU like or do something? Great. But don’t put down people for believing otherwise. It’s crazy, and stupid, and wrong.